The key to healthy relationships and a blissful social life is no longer the affection we show to others. Petty emotions are dead. They are the playthings of daydreamers.
If you are to maintain a grasp on the sentiments of your peers, you would do well to know the importance of secrecy.
Secrecy is hard to come by these days. In the boom of the Digital Revolution, any information we want is but a click away. Whether it is about environmental matters or Parisian fashion, no one really has the excuse to be ignorant of everything in the world. It's all right in front of us.
Above all, what is on our screens are the lives of other people; people so quickly and willingly expose themselves online. But most intriguingly, people are more quick to expose others, and the phrase "keep this to yourself" has now become meaningless. Don't all words lose their meaning when no one listens to them?
Sadly, even without the help of technology, people are so quick to gossip about the lives of their peers, and all with a clear conscience by the time they've changed the topic. Even without adding false words to their 'knowledge', this disclosure has begun to spread a poison.
Toxicity has always broken down relationships, and it's brutal to keep calm and carry on talking to your toxic peer when you know they've stabbed you in the back. But they don't know that you know. Thus, a toxic pattern will start: you'll loathe them, you'll pretend not to, you'll go home cursing their name... All while grinning and bearing it, unless of course you're someone else's toxic friend.
Of course, you could rely on the few close friends you have, and be content. But even now that may be a lie. You never know anymore who loves you and who yearns to push you down the stairs. You just now know that they exist.
Each of us has had (or currently does have) at least one toxic friend who allowed/allows your friendship to die by sharing your secrets and personal stories. The discovery of such a 'friend' is painful, and it sucks that nowadays it's pretty much a rite of passage to discover such a b*tch/bastard in your midst.
Like all successful diseases, there remains no cure for toxic bastards. And much like band-aids, you can't get rid of such people without a certain amount of pain. The most successful preventative measure you can take is to be careful with the trust placed in other people.
Don't meet someone and give them your house keys if they make you smile once. Let the same smile reappear many times for all the right reasons, and you're onto something good.
It's good to have faith in people and it's wonderful to know that it's mutual. Once such faith is destroyed, it can never be repaired to its former glory. So it's wise to truly trust someone before you tell them all your secrets. And they need to expect the same from you. If they can't get what they're entitled to, why should you??
Information (particularly secrets) is power. It can be a force for good, or a weapon at your throat. To own it makes you the most powerful person in the room. To wield it wisely makes you the kindest. But to share it with all the other people never makes you the bravest.
If you are to maintain a grasp on the sentiments of your peers, you would do well to know the importance of secrecy.
Secrecy is hard to come by these days. In the boom of the Digital Revolution, any information we want is but a click away. Whether it is about environmental matters or Parisian fashion, no one really has the excuse to be ignorant of everything in the world. It's all right in front of us.
Above all, what is on our screens are the lives of other people; people so quickly and willingly expose themselves online. But most intriguingly, people are more quick to expose others, and the phrase "keep this to yourself" has now become meaningless. Don't all words lose their meaning when no one listens to them?
Sadly, even without the help of technology, people are so quick to gossip about the lives of their peers, and all with a clear conscience by the time they've changed the topic. Even without adding false words to their 'knowledge', this disclosure has begun to spread a poison.
Toxicity has always broken down relationships, and it's brutal to keep calm and carry on talking to your toxic peer when you know they've stabbed you in the back. But they don't know that you know. Thus, a toxic pattern will start: you'll loathe them, you'll pretend not to, you'll go home cursing their name... All while grinning and bearing it, unless of course you're someone else's toxic friend.
Of course, you could rely on the few close friends you have, and be content. But even now that may be a lie. You never know anymore who loves you and who yearns to push you down the stairs. You just now know that they exist.
Each of us has had (or currently does have) at least one toxic friend who allowed/allows your friendship to die by sharing your secrets and personal stories. The discovery of such a 'friend' is painful, and it sucks that nowadays it's pretty much a rite of passage to discover such a b*tch/bastard in your midst.
Like all successful diseases, there remains no cure for toxic bastards. And much like band-aids, you can't get rid of such people without a certain amount of pain. The most successful preventative measure you can take is to be careful with the trust placed in other people.
Don't meet someone and give them your house keys if they make you smile once. Let the same smile reappear many times for all the right reasons, and you're onto something good.
It's good to have faith in people and it's wonderful to know that it's mutual. Once such faith is destroyed, it can never be repaired to its former glory. So it's wise to truly trust someone before you tell them all your secrets. And they need to expect the same from you. If they can't get what they're entitled to, why should you??
Information (particularly secrets) is power. It can be a force for good, or a weapon at your throat. To own it makes you the most powerful person in the room. To wield it wisely makes you the kindest. But to share it with all the other people never makes you the bravest.
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